Babies Don't Grow on Trees

At least, not that I'm aware of; because if they did, we'd already have 2.5 and our nearest & dearest would stop asking "when are you guys gonna have a baby?" That's just plain mean. I mean, seriously, Barnabe can hear you.

Let the record show that Los Porchs currently are without tiny humans not because we're soul-less demon people who think that babies are evil; but because babies take a certain amount of magic. Let's be serious -- there's like a 15% chance of getting knocked up when you try and everything is in line. So factor in our work hours and stress levels and you can bet we're not in the best place for that magic. Alas, when there is something to brag about, I promise to tell family & friends...

I'm not keeping a big secret so kindly stop asking.

Oh, and yes, I realize that some of my younger cousins and friends have already started their families. That's amazing and I couldn't be happier for them. They aren't me. They aren't a part of Los Porchs. So it doesn't matter if they win the GD lottery. Won't change our lives (but seriously, if you win the lottery, I'd consider allowing you to be part of Los Porchs).

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