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Happy Mother's Day to my tribe

Today, I am thankful that through science, my humble heart knows what it means to be a mama. <3 My heart is with those who find themselves wishing for just one more moment with their babies (or perhaps just the chance to meet their baby). My heart aches for those who struggle with infertility & fear not being able to start/add to their family -- though the technology is (may be) available and it may be possible, the financial burden may be too great.

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I am who I am because of the tribe that supports me. I am so thankful for this amazing group of women who have been active in my life and have brought me to this season of motherhood. My mother who has been a fearless and steadfast leader of our family. She loved me, regardless of those asshole years. ;) She has taught me what faith looks like in action. Charlotte is forever impacted by this incredible Nana.

I've heard horror stories about mother-in-laws. I am so thankful that I don't have that experience. :) My mother-in-law raised two amazing children. Some days, I am in awe of how she managed. That strength and perseverance is something I hope that Charlotte embodies as she grows. We treasure our time with Memaw!

Our tribe is so much more than just our moms. We are supported by a great number of strong women. My sister-in-law Katie is Charlie's godmother & we are so thankful for her warm, loving, and fun-loving spirit. She is the life of the party! I can't think of a better match partner for my brother. Charlotte's aunt Christi lives in Virginia and through the use of technology, Charlie knows her very well. She looks forward to chats and has pictures of her throughout the house.

I have a number of cousins who are intelligent, loving, wonderful role models. Through each interaction, they impact (and inspire) me and my parenting.

This tribe consists of more than just our relatives. Every day, I drop my child off at school and share her with a number of teachers who are compassionate and loving. They too are shaping my daughter. I couldn't do it without them. It truly does take a village.

We all come to motherhood in different ways. Some women, by choice, may not ever be mothers in the traditional sense yet they support children & families in many ways. I am so fortunate to have a number of these women in my life.

Happy Mother's Day to all of you.
Mama Porch

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