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As Porch and I struggled with our infertility and the news that our likelihood of conceiving naturally was less than 1%, I turned to the community of bloggers who shared our pain but not necessarily our same struggles.  While it was easy to get wrapped up in the stories of loss and sadness, it was also uplifting to read stories of success and happiness.  Without this community, I would have been lost and feeling alone, which is just about the worst place one can be while working through infertility struggles.

I have already started entering the notes I have in my journal; I always knew I wanted to share the journey with the community that had done so much for me.  I kept notes in a journal with hopes of sharing them to inspire and support others.  You can find them through the laterblog, infertility, and IVF labels at the top of the page.

I know that each couple's story is unique.  We feel so incredibly fortunate that our first round of IVF has brought us so much hope and a pregnancy.  While we are so very excited, we also reflect on the journey we took and keep those who have not had the same outcome in our thoughts & prayers.  There are days I feel like a fraud, like I don't belong in this community, because I got pregnant right away.  Many of the women I follow have struggled for years.  Out of pocket.  Porch's insurance through work has been fantastic.  We recognize our blessings & sharing our story is the least we can do.

Peace and love,

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